Your Question
I’m working away from home a lot and leaving my wife to raise the kids (2 beautiful little girls). I’m feeling such conflicting emotions though, while the money is great, as it allows my wife to not have to work, I feel I’m missing out on the early milestones of our girls. If I changed jobs, my wife would have to go back to work and I know she loves being with girls and not having to worry about childcare and the cost of it
Answer
Hello and welcome
Hi there,
Thank you for contacting us at Ask The Team. Thank you for trusting us with your question.
Recognising your feelings
We would like to reassure you that you are not alone. Many parents in Ireland face the same struggle when work demands mean spending long periods away from home. It is completely understandable to feel proud of providing for your family while also feeling the pain of missing important moments with your daughters.
Acknowledging your contribution
We want you to know that you are doing a great job. Without your hard work, your wife might not have the option to stay at home with your girls and avoid the high cost of childcare. It is clear that you are a loving and caring father, which is why the distance feels so difficult.
Reframing the situation
What we can recommend is gently reframing some of your thoughts. You are giving your daughters something many children do not have which is a parent at home with them full time during these early years.
Even when you are away, the quality of the time you spend together can have a stronger impact than the quantity. Bedtime stories, weekend routines, special family rituals, or video calls while you are travelling can all help your girls feel connected to you. These small but meaningful moments can become memories they carry with them.
Offering support
You are doing great and we are sure your wife and daughters deeply appreciate everything you do for them.
We at Ask Robyn are here if you ever have any more questions or concerns. Our Support Line phone service is open Monday to Friday, 9.00am to 1.00pm at 01 522 4300. You can also contact our email service at [email protected].
Thank you for getting in touch with us. We wish you well,
Robyn
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