Hello and welcome

Welcome to our Ask Robyn service and thank you for reaching out. It is completely understandable that you are feeling concerned, especially when you can already see a difference in how your twins are approaching such an important time in their lives. Many parents notice that siblings, even twins, can have very different attitudes towards study, motivation, and exams.

Different approaches to learning

From what you have shared, it sounds like your child who is studying less may feel confident because things worked out well during the Junior Cert. Since they achieved strong results before without putting in the same level of preparation, they may believe the same approach will work again. However, the Leaving Cert can feel very different. There is often more pressure, a heavier workload, and greater competition for courses and opportunities.

At the same time, it is important to remember that young people learn and manage stress differently. One twin may feel more secure with structure and revision, while the other may rely more on natural ability or last-minute motivation. This does not necessarily mean they are not taking things seriously, even if it appears that way from the outside.

Supporting rather than comparing

Although it can be tempting to compare their study habits, this can sometimes increase tension or lead to defensiveness. Instead, it can help to focus on each young person individually and support them according to their own needs and personality.

You may find it helpful to:

• Have calm and open conversations about how they are feeling about the Leaving Cert, rather than focusing only on study hours or results
• Encourage realistic planning and small study goals, especially for the twin who appears less motivated
• Avoid comparing the twins to one another, even positively, as comparisons can sometimes create pressure or resentment
• Acknowledge effort and wellbeing as well as academic achievement, since balance and confidence are also important during exam periods

Looking at the bigger picture

In addition, it may help to remember that exam success is not always linked to one particular study style. Some young people need more visible structure, while others work in shorter bursts or closer to deadlines. However, building healthy study habits now can still benefit them later in college, training, or work settings where independent organisation becomes more important.

As parents, your support, encouragement, and understanding can make a real difference during this stressful stage. Staying approachable and keeping communication open often helps young people feel safer asking for help if they begin to struggle. You may find this article helpful: 5-ways-to-support-your-child-during-their-exams/.

More support

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We wish you all the best with the exams. Take care,

Robyn