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My daughter has an eating disorder and she doesn’t like when we talk about it and she doesn’t accept our help
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Hello, and welcome to Ask Robyn,
Thank you for reaching out during what must be an incredibly challenging time for you and your family. It’s natural to want to help your daughter when you see her struggling, especially with something as serious as an eating disorder. This situation is undoubtedly distressing, and your desire to support her is a testament to your care and love. However, it’s understandable that you may feel helpless when she doesn’t accept your help or feels uncomfortable discussing it.
Eating disorders are complex, and often, those affected may feel ashamed, scared, or overwhelmed by the prospect of change. It’s not uncommon for individuals to be resistant to conversations about their condition, as these discussions can trigger anxiety or a sense of being judged. Approaching the subject with sensitivity, letting her know that you’re there for her whenever she’s ready, can create a safe space where she might eventually feel more comfortable opening up.
In the meantime, it’s crucial that you take care of yourself as well. Supporting someone with an eating disorder can be emotionally exhausting, and seeking your own support through resources like Bodywhys (www.bodywhys.ie), Ireland’s national organisation for eating disorders, could be invaluable. They offer guidance and advice specifically for families, helping you navigate this difficult journey while maintaining your own well-being.
It’s also important to remember that professional help is often necessary in treating eating disorders. Encouraging your daughter to speak with a counsellor or therapist, even if she’s initially reluctant, might eventually make a difference. Sometimes, hearing the need for help from a neutral party can be less intimidating than from a loved one. It’s essential to keep communication open without pushing too hard, reinforcing that your love and support are unconditional.
If you would like to talk some more about this, our Support Line is open Monday-Friday 9:00am – 1:00pm on 01 5224300. You can also email us at [email protected]. Please don’t hesitate to reach out whenever you need to.
Best wishes,
Robyn
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