Hello and Welcome

Welcome to our Ask Robyn service and thank you for reaching out with such an important question. Many parents and caregivers worry about how their own stress may affect their child, especially during difficult or busy periods. The fact that you are thinking about this already shows care, awareness, and a strong desire to support your child’s wellbeing.

Why managing stress matters

Children and young people are often very aware of the emotions of the adults around them. Even when we try to hide stress, children can sometimes notice changes in mood, patience, or energy levels. However, this does not mean that parents need to be calm all the time or never feel overwhelmed. Stress is a normal part of life, and children can also learn healthy coping skills by seeing adults manage challenges in positive ways.

Therefore, being kind to yourself is an important first step. Parenting can be demanding, and many adults are balancing work, family responsibilities, financial pressures, and everyday worries all at once.

Small changes can make a big difference

Although stress cannot always be avoided, there are gentle ways to reduce its impact on family life and create a calmer environment at home.

Some helpful things to try may include:

• Taking short moments for yourself during the day, even if it is only a few minutes to breathe deeply, go for a walk, or have a quiet cup of tea
• Talking openly with trusted friends, family members, or support services instead of carrying stress alone
• Letting your child know that adults have difficult days too, while reassuring them that they are safe and cared for
• Creating small routines at home, such as regular mealtimes or bedtime habits, as routines can help both adults and children feel more secure and settled

Being realistic with yourself

At the same time, it is important to remember that no parent responds perfectly all the time. There may be moments when stress affects patience or energy levels, and that is understandable. What matters most is recognising when things feel difficult and taking steps to care for yourself and your family.

In addition, showing your child healthy ways to cope with stress, such as asking for help, taking breaks, or talking about feelings, can teach them valuable emotional skills for the future.

Thank you again for contacting our Ask Robyn service. If you would like to talk some more about this our Support Line is open Monday to Friday 9:00am to 1:00pm on 01 5224300. Or you can email [email protected].

We wish you well,

Robyn