Hello and welcome

Welcome to our Ask Robyn service and thank you for reaching out with this important question. Many parents and carers worry about the wellbeing of their child, especially when changes in behaviour or mood begin to appear. It can feel upsetting or confusing when you are not sure what is going on but noticing that something may be wrong is often the first step in helping your child feel supported.

Changes to look out for

Young people can experience ups and downs as part of growing up. However, there are times when changes in their thoughts, feelings, or behaviour may suggest they are struggling with their mental health. Often, these changes last for a few weeks or begin to affect daily life at home, in school, or with friends.

You might notice that your child seems more withdrawn than usual, loses interest in activities they once enjoyed, or becomes more irritable or emotional. In addition, they may have changes in sleep, appetite, energy levels, or concentration. Some young people may begin avoiding school or social situations, while others may appear anxious, low in mood, or overwhelmed more often.

At times, physical complaints such as headaches or stomach aches can also be linked to emotional distress, particularly if there is no clear medical cause.

Trusting your instincts

As parents and carers, we often know when something feels different with our child. Even if you cannot identify exactly what is wrong, it is important to trust your instincts and gently check in with them. Young people may not always have the words to explain how they are feeling, so patience and open communication can make a big difference.

Things you can do to help

There are several supportive steps you can take if you are concerned about your child’s mental health:

• Choose calm moments to talk and let them know you are there to listen without judgement
• Focus on small daily routines such as sleep, meals, physical activity, and time away from screens
• Encourage connection with supportive friends, family members, teachers, or trusted adults
• Reach out for professional support through your GP or services such as  Jigsaw, which offers mental health support for young people and guidance for parents and carers

Reaching out for support

Importantly, you do not have to manage these worries alone. Speaking with your GP can help you better understand what supports may be available for your child. Early support can often prevent difficulties from becoming more overwhelming over time.

If you would like to talk some more about this or anything else, our Support Line is open Monday to Friday 9:00am to 1:00pm on 01 522 4300. Or you can email [email protected].

We wish you well, 

Robyn