Thank you for reaching out.

We are so sorry for your daughter’s loss and can only imagine how difficult this must be for both of you. It’s understandable that she has many questions, and it’s natural for you to feel uncertain about how to respond. The death of a friend, especially in such heartbreaking circumstances, can bring up complex emotions, and your support will be crucial in helping her process what has happened.

It’s good that your daughter is asking questions, even if they feel difficult to answer. Children process grief differently than adults, and their curiosity is often their way of making sense of something that feels overwhelming. When talking with her, try to be open and honest while keeping explanations age-appropriate. Reassure her that feeling confused, sad, or even scared is okay. This article offers guidance on how to talk with young people about suicide in a way that is supportive and safe.

It’s also important to check in on how she’s feeling emotionally. Sometimes, children may not have the words to express their grief, but changes in behavior—such as difficulty sleeping, withdrawing from activities, or becoming more anxious—can be signs that they are struggling. Let her know that whatever she’s feeling is valid and that she is not alone. If you’re worried about how she’s coping, seeking additional support from a professional or a trusted adult can be helpful.

If she has further questions about suicide, she can find information and support at Childline. Childline is a safe, non-judgmental, and confidential space where young people can talk openly about their thoughts and feelings. She can reach out for free by calling 1800 66 66 66, or through web chat at Childline.ie—available 24/7. Let her know that no matter what, she is not alone, and there are always people who care and want to help.

If you would like to talk more about how to support your daughter during this difficult time, our Parenting Support Line is open Monday-Friday, 9:00 am – 1:00 pm at 01 5224300, or you can email us at [email protected]. We are here to help.

Best regards,

Robyn