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How to deal with toddler screaming when other children or adults approach her?
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Hi there, welcome to Ask Robyn.
Thank you so much for reaching out with your question. You’re seeking advice on how to respond when a toddler starts screaming, especially when approached by others. It can be overwhelming for everyone involved when a toddler becomes distressed and begins to scream.
When a toddler screams, it’s their way of expressing how they feel. They might also kick, bite, or throw things because they’re upset and don’t yet know how to communicate what’s bothering them. This behaviour is very common for toddlers, and as they learn to talk more, the screaming and tantrums will gradually decrease.
A toddler might scream because they’re tired, hungry, feeling uncomfortable, or frustrated at not being able to communicate a message. When you notice this happening, try to find something to distract them, like a toy or a game. If the toddler is already having an emotional outburst, it’s really important to stay calm because they are watching how others react.
One helpful approach is to avoid responding to the tantrum until the behaviour stops. By calmly ignoring it, the toddler might begin to understand that screaming isn’t the best way to get what they want. Once they’ve calmed down, you can gently ask them what happened, using a calm and gentle approach.
Remember, tantrums are a normal part of growing up. Don’t be too hard on yourself, and try not to take it personally if the toddler screams. It’s all part of their learning process.
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