Welcome to Ask Robyn

Thank you for reaching out to us. It takes courage to share how you are feeling, especially when fear for your child’s safety is involved. We are really glad you got in touch.

Understanding your fear

Firstly, what you are feeling is very understandable. Hearing about an intruder in your neighbourhood, especially when vulnerable people have already been targeted, can make any parent feel anxious and on edge. As a single parent, it can also feel like the responsibility rests entirely on your shoulders, which can intensify those fears. However, it is important to remember that your strength and awareness are already key protective factors for your daughter.

You are not alone in this

Although it may feel isolating, many parents experience similar worries when safety concerns arise in their community. Importantly, safety does not depend on having another adult in the home. Feeling secure comes from preparation, awareness, and support systems around you. You are already taking a positive step by seeking advice and thinking proactively.

Practical steps you can take

To help you feel more in control and to increase safety at home, here are some practical steps you might consider:

• Ensure doors and windows are securely locked, and consider adding extra measures such as motion sensor lights or an alarm system
• Get to know trusted neighbours so you can look out for one another and share updates about any suspicious activity
• Talk openly with your daughter about safety, including what to do if she feels unsafe and how to contact you or emergency services
• Keep a charged phone nearby at all times and consider having emergency numbers easily accessible for both you and your daughter

Supporting your daughter emotionally

In addition, your daughter may also be picking up on the tension or worry. Creating space for calm, honest conversations can help her feel reassured rather than frightened. Let her know that you are taking steps to stay safe together, and encourage her to share how she feels too.

Young people can also reach out for support themselves. Your daughter can contact our Childline service free at phone 1800 66 66 66, or by web chat at Childline.ie. The service is non judgemental, confidential and anonymous, as we do not use caller identification or device IP address. They are never alone. We are here to support them and explore their options in a safe place, open 24 7.

Looking after yourself

Finally, your wellbeing matters too. Feeling constantly on alert can be exhausting. If possible, try to connect with supportive friends, family, or community members. Even small steps to reduce isolation can make a big difference in how safe and supported you feel.

If you would like to talk some more about this, our Support Line is open Monday to Friday 9:00am to 1:00pm on 01 5224300. Or you can email [email protected].

Thank you again for getting in touch. We wish you well,

Robyn