Hi there, and thank you for contacting Ask Robyn,

You’ve asked about how to reduce screen time for your 11-year-old, who becomes aggressive when asked to stop.

Start with an open conversation.

How would you feel about having a calm discussion with your child about screen time and some of its negative effects? You might also reflect together on both their screen use and your own. It can help to acknowledge that adults can sometimes overuse screens too.

Set clear and fair boundaries.

Could you talk with your child about setting daily time limits for screen use? If their current usage is quite high, would a gradual reduction to a healthier level work better? You might also consider creating a household screen time rule that applies to everyone. That way, when it’s time to switch off, you can gently remind them of the agreement and support them in sticking to it.

Explore screen-free alternatives together.

Ask your child what other activities they might enjoy. Do they like Lego, drawing, or being outdoors? If you live in a neighbourhood where it’s safe, could they play outside with other children? Are they involved in any extracurricular activities—or is that something you could explore together?

Make it fun with a family activity jar.

Consider creating a family activity jar together. Fill it with ideas like board games (Snakes and Ladders, Uno), baking, or simple crafts. When it’s time to turn off the screens, choose an activity from the jar and do it together.

We’re here to support you.

If you’d like further support or want to talk more about any of the ideas above, you can contact the ISPCC Support Line on 01 522 4300, Monday to Friday, 9.00am–1.00pm. Or if you prefer to email, you can reach us at [email protected]

Take care,

Ask Robyn