Understanding the impact

Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out to Ask Robyn with your question. It’s important to acknowledge that friendship breakups can be just as painful as romantic ones—especially for children and teenagers who are still learning to navigate relationships and manage their emotions. Providing emotional support and helping your child understand and process their feelings is key during this challenging time.

Validating their emotions

Start by acknowledging your child’s feelings. Let them know that it’s okay to feel hurt, angry, or anxious. You could say something like, “I can see that you’re really upset about your friendship. It’s tough when things don’t work out with someone you care about.” Validating their emotions in this way helps your child feel seen and understood.

Encouraging emotional expression

Encourage your child to express their feelings—whether through talking, journaling, or another outlet. Finding a way to release those emotions can be very therapeutic. Help them understand that it’s normal for friendships to evolve and that this experience, although painful, is an opportunity for growth. Remind them that they deserve friendships that are healthy and supportive, and that it’s perfectly okay to outgrow certain relationships.

Seeking additional support if needed

If your child is having difficulty moving on from the breakup, or if the situation is causing significant emotional distress, it may be helpful to seek professional support. Here at the ISPCC, we offer a free guided Digital Mental Health Programme.

This programme is rooted in the proven principles of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and mindfulness practices. It creates space for self-reflection and helps equip young people with practical tools to rebuild confidence, reduce anxiety, and improve their daily life. There are three available programmes:

• Space from Anxiety (for 15–18-year-olds)
• Supporting an Anxious Child (for parents/guardians of 5–11-year-old children with mild to moderate anxiety)
• Supporting an Anxious Teen (for parents/carers of 12–18-year-olds with mild to moderate anxiety)

Therapy can also provide your child with strategies for coping with rejection and strengthening their self-esteem.

Encouraging positive social engagement

Lastly, encourage your child to get involved in social activities—such as joining a club or taking up a new hobby—to meet new people and rebuild their confidence.

Get in touch

If you’d like to discuss this further, the ISPCC’s Support Line service can be contacted by email at [email protected] or by phone at 01 522 4300, available Monday to Friday from 9 am to 1 pm.

Best wishes,

Robyn