Welcome to our Ask Robyn service

Thank you for reaching out and sharing what your child is going through. It can be very upsetting to hear that your child is experiencing bullying, especially when it has reached the point where they feel unable to return to school. Your concern and willingness to support them is an important first step.

Understanding what your child is experiencing

It is clear that your child has been holding a lot inside, and their breakdown may reflect how overwhelming things have become. Bullying can deeply affect a young person’s confidence, sense of safety, and willingness to engage with school life. As a parent, it can feel difficult to know what to say or do in these moments.

You might find it helpful to read this guidance on how to respond in a supportive way: what-not-to-say-to-a-worried-child-who-is-being-bullied/

Supporting your child at home

First of all, creating a calm and open space for your child to talk is key. Let them share at their own pace, and reassure them that they have done the right thing by telling you. At the same time, it is important to remind them that what is happening is not their fault.

In addition, you can gently begin to explore next steps together so they feel included and supported rather than overwhelmed.

Some helpful steps you might consider are:

• Stay connected with your child by checking in regularly and listening without interrupting or rushing to solutions
• Contact the school to make them aware of the situation and ask about their anti bullying policies and supports
• Work with your child to identify safe people in school they can go to if they feel unsafe during the day
• Encourage small steps that help rebuild confidence, such as staying connected with friends or activities they enjoy

Exploring support together

Alongside the steps you are taking at home and with the school, it can be helpful for your child to know that there is support available beyond their immediate circle. This can reassure them that they are not facing this situation on their own.

You might consider looking at information about bullying together, as this can help your child better understand what is happening and feel less isolated in their experience. There are helpful articles on bullying available on the Childline website at Childline.ie which you can explore together.

Your child can also contact our Childline service free at 1800 66 66 66, or by webchat at Childline.ie. This service is non judgemental, confidential, and anonymous. We do not use caller identification or device IP address. They are never alone, and we are here to support them and help them explore their options in a safe place, open 24 hours a day.

Moving forward

Although this situation feels very distressing right now, taking it step by step can help make things feel more manageable. Your child has already taken a brave step by opening up to you, and with the right support, things can improve.

If you would like to talk some more about this, our Support Line is open Monday to Friday 9:00am to 1:00pm on 01 5224300. You can also email [email protected].

Thank you for your question. We wish you the best,

Robyn