Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out to Ask Robyn with your question.

It can be deeply concerning when a child expresses a desire to drop out of school. Firstly, it’s important to try to understand why they feel this way. Have they been struggling with schoolwork? Are they having difficulty with peer relationships or facing bullying? Sometimes, social issues or academic challenges can make school feel overwhelming.

Instead of simply saying “no,” try having an open and calm conversation about their feelings. Ask them what they specifically dislike about school, what their plans are, and what they hope to achieve if they leave. This conversation can help identify the root of the problem so that you can explore solutions together.

If the issue is academic, consider tutoring, additional learning support at school, or alternative education pathways that might better suit their learning style. If it’s related to social or emotional difficulties, support from a school counsellor or a therapist may be helpful.

It’s important to note that, under Irish law, school attendance is compulsory for children aged 6 to 16, or until they have completed three years of second-level education, whichever is later. Parents are legally responsible for ensuring their child attends school during this time. If you’re concerned about your child’s attendance, the Tusla Education Support Service (TESS) provides help to families dealing with school attendance issues.

For more information, you can visit the TESS website or contact them directly.

The ISPCC also offers support for children and families facing emotional challenges. You can reach our Parenting Support service by emailing [email protected], or contact the ISPCC at 01 522 4300.

Dropping out of school is a significant decision with long-term consequences, so taking the time to explore all possible solutions together is key.

Best wishes,

Robyn