Hi there,

Thanks for contacting Ask Robyn with your question. It’s completely understandable that you don’t want to feel like the “bad guy” all the time when trying to manage screen time. You’re not alone—many parents face the same challenge. Managing screen time, especially with platforms like YouTube that are designed to be endlessly engaging, can be tough.

1. Create a clear, consistent screen time routine

Children tend to do better when they know what to expect. Decide how much screen time is allowed and when it’s appropriate. For example:

• 30 minutes after school
• 1 hour on weekends
• Only after homework and chores

Make this part of a visible daily routine chart. Consistency helps reduce arguments and tantrums.

2. Set limits with your child

Involve your child in setting the rules to increase cooperation:

“We’re going to plan for screen time together. What do you think is a fair amount of YouTube each day?”

This approach gives your child a sense of control and responsibility, rather than feeling like something is being taken away from them.

3. Use timers or visual cues

Children often struggle with transitions. A timer or visual countdown can help signal how much time is left. Offer gentle warnings:

“You have five more minutes of YouTube. What would you like to watch before we turn it off?”

4. Replace, don’t just remove

Rather than just taking screens away, try to fill their time with engaging, screen-free activities. For example:

• Arts and crafts
• Outdoor play
• Board games or puzzles

Having alternatives ready can make transitions easier.

5. Model healthy habits

Children often mimic adult behaviour. If you’re frequently on screens, they’ll notice. Show them that screens have a place, but they’re not the only way to relax, learn, or have fun.

Seek further support

If the behaviour continues and you’d like more guidance, the ISPCC (Irish Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children) offers support services for both children and parents dealing with emotional or behavioural challenges.

You can contact our Parenting Support service by emailing [email protected] or by calling our Support Line on 01 522 4300, Monday to Friday, 9.00am–1.00pm.

Take care,

Robyn