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My 16 year old daughter told me crying that she was sexually abused from a person she went on a date with and that she is really scared. I don’t know how to feel and I just want to help her but she says she doesn’t want any help
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Hello, and welcome to Ask Robyn,
We’re deeply sorry to hear about what your daughter has gone through, and we want to thank you for reaching out during such a painful time. It’s heart breaking to learn that your daughter has experienced something as traumatic as sexual abuse, and it’s completely understandable that you’re feeling a mix of emotions, including confusion and helplessness. What your daughter has shared with you is incredibly serious and must be recognised as child sexual abuse.
It’s very common for someone in your daughter’s situation to feel scared and unsure about seeking help. While she may not be ready to accept support right now, it’s crucial that she knows she isn’t alone and that you’re there for her whenever she’s ready. Her feelings of fear and reluctance are valid, and it’s important to approach her with patience and understanding.
Your daughter has the right to report what happened to the Gardaí, and this can be an important step in ensuring her safety and well-being. However, if she’s not ready to take that step, that’s okay too. Encouraging her to talk to a trusted adult who can support her and help guide her through this difficult time might be a more comfortable first step for her.
There are also professional resources available that can provide your daughter with the specialised support she may need. CARI (www.CARI.ie) is an excellent organisation dedicated to helping young people who have been sexually abused. Additionally, the Dublin Rape Crisis Centre (www.DRCC.ie) offers services for both you and your daughter, providing counselling and support to help you thriugh these challenging emotions and decisions.
If your daughter feels more comfortable talking to someone anonymously, Childline is available 24/7 to offer a confidential, non-judgmental space where she can express her thoughts and feelings. She can reach them by phone at 1800 66 66 66 or via online chat at www.Childline.ie. This service ensures she can talk freely, explore her options, and know she’s not alone.
As you focus on supporting your daughter, it’s also important to care for yourself. If you need someone to talk to or if you’re seeking further advice, our Support Line is available Monday to Friday, 9:00am to 1:00pm, at 01 5224300. You can also reach us by email at [email protected].
Please remember, you and your daughter do not have to go through this alone. We are here to support you.
Take care,
Robyn,
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